ARE YOU A
TALEBEARER?
How often do
we tell ourselves that these are but small mistakes and we rather focus on how
other people can do such BIG things: steal, defraud, kill, betray etc. These
are the lies we tell ourselves.-we should deal with these issues so we can GROW because retrogression is a death. Much like a dog returns to it's vomit
I noticed
something rather strange on my daily walks. I usually speak with workers in
most places I pass through. The
conversations are usually casual. I greet, ask them how life is etc. Usually
the conversation turns quickly into a complaint about their bosses.
Now I am not one to say that there is never ill-treatment in the work place,
but here is the scenario: you have just met me, you don't know who I am, and
you are quick to be a tale bearer. This tells me you aren't to be trusted,
because if nothing else your boss trusts you with his/her confidential
information. Also why would you be so comfortable to tell a complete stranger
all that information about someone else?
Now in our
walk of life I would guess most of us have been through atleast one bad boss or employer. It is one of those facts of life, it builds character, it teaches us life lessons, it
strengthens our reserve, it teaches us to learn certain dynamics of human
behaviour, and then for some fearless lions it pushes us into entrepreneurship.
Now here is
a question, you pray for a job, you ask for income then with your mouth you
curse the place and person from whence your income comes? Now since I'm
assuming we know the law of sowing and reaping, blessing and cursing and that
the power of life and death is in the tongue. Do you think your income will be
blessed? Can the work of your hand be blessed in this scenario? Can the income you are cursing bless your
household? It is said and (I hope we know) that both sweet and bitter water
cannot come from the same fountain so which one do you choose to flow out of your
mouth?
Here is
another scenario, say I was on the look out for new recruits. (often people ask
me if I can get them a job, because their job and boss is horrible) Do you
really think Im apt to employ someone so quick to gossip about their work and
employer. How short-sighted tale-bearing seems to be.
The last
scenario how many people do not have bosses because they do not have jobs, they
do not have income, they do not have a place they can wake-up and go to, and
are praying every night for the opportunity to be employed. If leadership is
flawed let's address those issues in a proper platform and in the right way, I
do think some of those people wouldn't even have the decency to address those
issues directly to the person involved.
I have a
friend who continuously complained about her boyfreind. Everytime we met she
would go on about how he did this and didn't do this, that and the other. The
very next day without fail she would appear with him holding hands and smiling.
I really think this put us in an awkward position. How do we then view this
boyfreind (and what happened to the discretion between two people in a
relationship). I quickly made up my mind that the real problem was with her
because how could you strip someone you claimed you had come to loathe so much
and then be completely someone different the next day with him. Also what then
becomes of this man's privacy & dignity?
I have not
in my life been guilt-free of gossip and tale-bearing. However this past year
it has been my daily prayer and meditation to ask God to assist me to be
discreet and stay away from tale-bearing and gossip. Specifically also not to
engage in complaining. To watch my mouth.
Great minds
discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people-Roosevelt
Listen to
this one: A talebearer reveals secrets:but he that us of a faithful spirit
conceals the matter.
